How do homeschoolers prevent their children from becoming bullies? What do you do if you find out your child is bullying younger children?

Question : Bullying - the flip side

How do homeschoolers prevent their children from becoming bullies?  What do you do if you find out your child is bullying younger children?

Note: this may arise in the case of young children learn to socialize.  The assumption is the by teen years the children know the difference between good and bad/ acceptable and not acceptable behavior.

Ummibaps: 

I put this forward because many a parent worries about her child being bullied....few consider that their child might be one

AA: 1 son, 1 daughter
My son 2+ wants everything my daughter 3+ is playing with and if she doesn't give, there is a fight pulling hairs and biting between them. So to end the fight I just tell my daughter to give it to him.
Please advise on how to discipline my boy and not to make my daughter surrender all the time.

MN:

Same problem but the age is 1.6.......she even try to bite me :(......wannnttt everythngggg

SAA: 3 sons, 2 daughters/ ages 16 to 7

Question : Bullying - the flip side

How to homeschoolers prevent their children from becoming bullies?  What do you do if you find out your child is bullying younger children?

In my home it sometimes develop in a very droll way
My youngest who is the apple of my husband and the elder three kids eyes sometimes bully my second last one and he is too gentleman to strike back
Had to balance it out
Talk and discipline the one stepping out of bound
Recently the youngest son was teaching eldest the Rubik and basking in glow and dishing out smart mouth bullying i had to put a stop to that too
  

SMA: 

I love SAA's perspectives. She's like a psychologist cum educator. Barakallah feeki. And so generous with her advise, sparing a lot of time to explain well Alhamdulillah

Ummibaps: 8 sons, 1 daughter / 2yrs to 18yrs Alhumdulillah

What if your child is the bully?

Not many parents care to consider the flip side, but a child overly teasing a sibling, often mocking or pinching cousins ,  jeering maids is also bullying.....

-Again,  don't panic if you come to gear your child may be bullying someone

- gather further info from those who saw the incident

- speak to you child to find out the cause

- be aware that if there really isn't a cause then small children are still learning to socialize and need to be guided

- make your child apologise to those he may hurt ....Depending on his age and maturity. ...a child who finds it embarrassing to apologise will avoid repeating such actions

There is little point in making a very young child apologise. ...If too small to understand what it means and implies then "Sorry" is a formality to get away with bad behaviour. ..I hit him,  I said sorry,  I can hit him again and say sorry then too....

Encourage your child to say good and be nice to those he previously hurt...encourage him to see the other side of people and make excuses for them

REMEMBER : if your child bullies someone it does not reflect your behaviour,  as long as you don't become defensive about it ,  acknowledge to yourself you have a situation to deal with, and work towards fixing the problem

(Note: The above is a copy of a Whatsapp conversation,   partly edited for clarity)