Monday, December 12, 2016

Can fathers contribute/ help with homeschooling? How?

Question : Fathers
Can fathers contribute/  help with homeschooling? How?

Note: Every family culture is different,   the answers here are based on personal experiences and suggestions.  They are NOT rules to be strictly followed.


Umm Raeyan - Iraq: Daughter 9 yrs old,Son 3 yrs old
My husband is a graphic designer & our daughter is very much inclined towards arts and craft; every now and then he 'guides' her how to draw or colour. Shares and discusses his designed work or any interesting ads, logos etc. with her.
When our daughter was younger and now with our son, whenever we go for groceries he takes them to the green grocery, sea food and meat section and tells names of different stuff available. There is always something interesting, (octopus, live salmon, crabs, organ meat, dragon fruit etc.) children really look forward to it.
He takes us to parks, library etc. which I believe is his involvement in homeschooling as well.


SAA: 3 sons, 2 daughters/ 16years to 7 years
Since we are asked to share our own experience
To me homeschooling is an extension with slight variation of parenting
Parenting has to do with care and tarbyah and homeschooling Has to do with their knowledge and intellect and skills
Like a noble stag with his antlers note that the antlers is homeschooling
In my experience AA (the father) played four crucial roles in homeschooling
Environment building
Value of learning
Evaluation(stress building)
And last but not least
Ami leashing(stress release)
His contribution to environment
⭐Buying expensive maker kits
⭐Allowing me to buy loads of books
⭐Discussing complex concepts instead of people or politics
⭐Unwavering enthusiasm for technologies and ideas
⭐Taking notes and recording 
⭐Insisted kids learn coding and languages
⭐bought courses for them
And
⭐Very solid ethical code of right and wrong
His contribution to increase value of learning
⭐His constant learning attitude and appreciation and support for kids learning accomplishments increased the kids enthusiasm 
⭐He insisted for kids to show in some solid form what they have learned notes mind map presentations etc
⭐And record and revise their learning to reinforce it
His contribution in evaluation
😱He would evaluate the child learning by his behaviour and approach
😱He would keep pushing innovations on me
😱He would keep pointing at wastage weather of time or effort
😱He would load a mountain of expectation on me
😱 he would expect all the investments constructively and constantly in use
👹👹👹👹👹👹
And he would reinstate my confidence before I turned into a monster of stress
And help  me to leash my anger and explosions


Ummibaps: 8 sons, 1 daughter/ages 2 to 18
Question : Fathers
Moral support and making financial decisions in regard to homeschooling and esp family life is a vital role that fathers' play in a homeschooling family lifestyle.
In our case  he also presents a world view through discussions at dinner time.
Sensitive issues regarding growing up and discipline etc ( esp for our boys ) and councils them.
He assigns and corrects the daily  paragraph writing of some of two of the children and listens to their oral work.
He helps oversee and correct workbook work when he has time to spare
Calls things to order when the children's night chores seem to be turning into chaos
He has the children ( by turn) accompany him to seminars and trips where they can see real life in action and benefit from the experience as well.


Dr. MRK: mother of 3
The above question is already been well explained masha'Allah..
Just a few lines to add.....in our case the actual sitting down and learning things is solely done by me but the support in providing ideas, motivation, material, opportunities, is all done by the father...without his support homeschooling is very difficult...
my husband sees all the physical activity aspects of our kids..and he always suppport me whatever i plan to do..no matter how big it is..Alhamdolillah....basiclly father should be the supporter of the ideas



 (Note: The above is a copy of a Whatsapp conversation,   partly edited for clarity)

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